🌿 Neurodivergent Women: Late Diagnosis, Relief, and Identity Rediscovery
For decades, women and girls slipped through the cracks of diagnosis. They were the quiet daydreamers, the high achievers who hid their struggles, the perfectionists who masked exhaustion behind a smile. Many grew up being told they were “too sensitive,” “lazy,” or “just anxious.”
It wasn’t laziness. It wasn’t weakness. It was neurodivergence — missed, misunderstood, or mislabelled.
Now, increasing numbers of women are receiving diagnoses of autism or ADHD later in life. The experience can bring deep relief, grief for lost years, and the beginning of rediscovering who they truly are.
At Herbs on the Hill, we believe late diagnosis isn’t just about labels. It’s about self-understanding, compassion, and creating daily rituals that help women reconnect with themselves.
🌱 Why Were Women Missed?
Historically, research and diagnostic criteria were based almost entirely on boys. That meant:
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Stereotypes → autism was seen as “quiet boys who love trains.” ADHD was “disruptive boys who can’t sit still.”
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Masking → girls learned early to hide differences, mimicking peers, forcing eye contact, or over-preparing socially.
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Misdiagnosis → many were labelled with anxiety, depression, or borderline personality disorder instead.
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Quieter traits → internalised struggles (daydreaming, perfectionism, sensory sensitivity) weren’t recognised as neurodivergence.
👉 As a result, thousands of women only discover their true neurotype in adulthood.
🌸 The Emotional Journey of Late Diagnosis
Receiving a diagnosis later in life can trigger a wave of emotions:
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Relief → “I finally understand myself.”
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Grief → mourning the lost years without support.
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Anger → at being overlooked or misunderstood for decades.
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Hope → seeing a future with self-compassion and community.
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Rediscovery → reconnecting with identity, passions, and authentic self.
Diagnosis doesn’t change who you are — but it changes the story you tell yourself.
🌿 The Science of Aromatherapy for Emotional Support
Scent is uniquely powerful in emotional healing:
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Rose → linked to calming the nervous system and supporting feelings of self-worth.
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Neroli → reduces anxiety, offering gentle reassurance.
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Lavender → interacts with GABA receptors to calm racing thoughts.
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Frankincense → grounding, supportive for reflection and identity work.
👉 For late-diagnosed women, these oils provide non-verbal comfort during intense emotional processing.
✨ Rituals for Identity Rediscovery
From the Limitless Collection:
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Calm Roll-On (lavender + chamomile) → soothing ally for days when emotions spill over.
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Botanical Breeze Spray → refreshing reset after overwhelming conversations.
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Limitless Brain Boost → clarity and energy for journaling, therapy, or rediscovery projects.
🌿 Explore the Limitless Collection.
🌸 Practical Ritual Ideas
1. Grounding with Rose
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Roll rose or lavender oil before journaling.
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Pair the scent with reflective writing → your body learns: this is safe time to process.
2. The Rediscovery Space
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Diffuse frankincense during creative activities.
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Anchor identity work (art, music, writing) with grounding aroma.
3. Gentle Reset
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Spray Botanical Breeze after heavy discussions.
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Let citrus + herbs shift your nervous system back into balance.
💡 FAQs About Late Diagnosis
Q: Why are women diagnosed later than men?
A: Because diagnostic criteria were based on boys, and girls were more likely to mask or be misdiagnosed.
Q: Is it normal to feel grief after diagnosis?
A: Yes — many women mourn the years they went unsupported before embracing relief and self-acceptance.
Q: Can aromatherapy replace therapy?
A: No — but it can offer sensory anchors for emotional comfort, calm, and grounding alongside therapy or self-reflection.
💜 Closing & Gentle CTA
Late diagnosis is not a failure — it’s a doorway. It’s the moment many women stop blaming themselves and start embracing who they truly are.
At Herbs on the Hill, we honour that journey. For over 30 years, we’ve created natural oils, balms, and sprays that bring gentle comfort and grounding through every stage of rediscovery.
🌿 Explore the Limitless Collection, or visit us at 20 Bath Street, Frome.
💌 Connect with us:
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Live chat at HerbsontheHill.shop
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Socials: @herbsonthehill
Rediscovery isn’t about becoming someone new. It’s about finally being allowed to be yourself. 🌸
